During this time of the year there is an abundance of gym memberships, goals, and fad-dieting brought into people’s lives. We want to make changes, but do we commit? Do we resolve to change ourselves? The definition of resolve uses the words “firm determination” more than once in its various definitions. We all want to:
- Lose weight
- Save money
- Spend more time with family and friends
- Exercise more
What are we doing to actually accomplish these goals? Are you setting yourself up for failure or success in your resolutions? What tools do you put in your tool belt to help you succeed in your goal for leveling up yourself? All too often we either do not equip ourselves appropriately, allocate proper time and resources for success, or do not actually resolve to change. Half-hearted resolutions will bring half-hearted results.
The same exists with us in our journey in diapers. We find ourselves waddling down a different part of the path of life. At times we will catch up with friends along the way. Other times we will catch up to others. In those moments we must leverage each other to build ourselves and those around us up to be the best little, adult baby, diaper lover, mother, father, husband, wife, and person that we can be. It is our power as a community and as couples that will drive us to success.
Again I ask you, are you setting yourself up for failure or success in your diapers? What tools are you placing in your tool belt to help you succeed?
I believe that diapers themselves can be a powerful tool. I use them to balance myself. There is no exact time of the day when I must have a diaper on, it is a feeling. I know when I need them because a part of me reaches out for them. Leveraging them in a healthy way keeps me living the best life I can for myself, my wife, and my children.
Your spouse (or family) is a tool. How we share with them is the hardest part, in my opinion, relating to my affinity to diapers. I absolutely love my wife. She is a rock star in so many ways. She is my best friend, my confidant, my love. Diapers have not been easy, and the longer we are on the journey the more I gain insight as to reasons why.
We talk about everything. Our open communication keeps us on the same page, and constantly strengthens our marriage. Not all of our conversations are easy, but we work hard to come out of each of them a better couple with a better plan for the future. Diapers have been a different conversation. There are two concurrent conversations happening. One, my conversation with myself as I continue to learn about my relationship/connection with diapers. Two, the conversations my wife and I have about them. I want to talk with my wife, my best friend, about the first of the two conversations, but it becomes overwhelming for her as she navigates her own feelings. I feel torn because the person I want to run to first about something isn’t the person I can talk to right now. I am trying hard to give her the space the needs to process everything, and be supportive when/where I can. It has not been easy, and is not typically how we have addressed things.
For all the littles out there, have patience. It is definitely a marathon, not a sprint and you have to be in it for the long haul. Be patient with your spouse and with yourself. Work hard to understand their feelings, and do everything you can to be strong for them. The roller coaster of emotions come and go, and you must be there for each other. This relationship continues to grow, and I don’t have the final result. I don’t know if there is a final result. Perhaps it will continue to grow as we continue to grow.
Your faith is a tool. Lean to your faith, your beliefs, your happy place (meditation). Through study and prayer I am learning more and more about how diapers fit into my overall life. Even how they help me be the best person I can for my Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. I have to build myself up so I can be useful to God and his Son. I try and make Sunday-centric posts, and have also chronicled my journey through the Heart to Heart program.
Learn to use the tools that you have, and also teach yourself how to use new ones.
Whatever your resolution is this year, whether it be for yourself or diapers (perhaps they are one in the same), make sure you find your whole heart in it. Truly resolve to change, and be prepared for the pain, the trials, and eventually the fruits of hard-work and victory.
When we commit wholly and give our lives to Christ we become a new creature. Old things pass away, and all things become new. That is the resolve we are looking for.