A simple act of kindness causes and endless ripple. So often in our lives as Adult Babies we find ourselves looking in, shamed of ourselves and what we experience daily. The knowledge that we are aberrant does not escape us. Knowing can compound our feelings, and push us deeper inside ourselves. Most, if not all, of us have experienced this. I know a big portion of my teens were filled with this introspection.
I have learned that one of the most effective ways to escape this thinking, even if it is a temporary “vacation,” is to serve those around me. When we serve others, it provides the space for a number of things to occur:
We lose ourselves – For a small moment our own pain escapes us. We focus on the needs of others, and helping to ease their pain. Even while typing the previous sentence I felt a small instance of the feeling that always comes when I get out of my own way and serve others. All too often we are “too busy” to serve, but many times we are lying to ourselves out of laziness or convenience. We cannot grow if we are unable to be brutally honest with the little we see in the mirror.
Perspective – While we serve others an internal conversation can occur. We see inside the circumstance and situation of another life. I take this moment to provide myself some perspective internally, and often begin thanking my Heavenly Father for all of the blessings that I have in my life. Small and simple things I can be taken for granted because they are part of our daily life. I do not mean this an exercise of judging or comparing, but this moment where someone else is vulnerable enough to let us in to help them gives me the ability to perform a self-check on how I am conducting myself.
Emotional/Spiritual comfort – Service is like peeing your pants. Everybody can see it, but only you get the warm, fuzzy feeling. Not that any of you would be able to relate with the example above, so trust me on this one. 🙂
We often feel lighter, a burden lifted, while and after we serve others. That emotional and spiritual response should not be taken lightly. Take those moments, and use them as a springboard to bigger and better things. Those moments will fade over time, but if we commit to continue we can extend the usefulness of those feelings.
The other side of service
Service has two sides. How often are we able to open ourselves up to be served by others. We have many friends, family, and community members that are willing to offer a hand up when it is needed. Are we willing to allow it? Do we provide the space for others to be blessed through service to us? I find that I do not accept service well, even though there are few emotions that can match being on the receiving end of someone’s love they express through serving.
Here are a few videos that I have seen many times that resonates the true spirit of service. I meant to only post “The Gift” as it was the story that began this post, but as I typed the words from the other video “A simple act of kindness causes and endless ripple” began going from my mind to my keyboard. Paying it Forward is one of the neatest concepts I love to see occur in the world. When the world gets hard, and we are beating ourselves up for our connection with diapers, remember that we can find happiness in bringing joy into the lives of those around us. Be an active participant in your own happiness!